Your Very Own Personal and Professional Chief Strategy Officer
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For a moment, let me have the role of being your very own Personal and Professional Chief Strategy Officer.
Together, we are going to create a quick updated “map” of where you are and where you are headed.
There are many categories of life that we attend to, but the most prominent are the categories that exist with your most highly held values and points of real interest.
Key categories of action in living:
- Life/My Ongoing Experience/My Future
- Job/My Career Path
- Primary Relationship/My Significant Other
- Family/My Family
When these work – life works. Conversely …
As we age, our priorities change and the things that really matter to us change. It is useful to have a quick check-in to update where we are on our respective roads in Life.
Take 10 minutes, right now, just for the helluv-it and answer these few questions:
- What is one aspect of you that you bring to everything you do? It can be almost anything, but it is a constant theme (hint – people will compliment you about this aspect of you, but because it seems easy – you mostly ignore the compliment). Example: I am both Appreciative and Optimistic. It allows me to see the plusses in people or a situation and then see what is possible. From that, I generate choices.
There are more components to this but you have to go to my blog to see it
www.mcbsmith.wordpress.com —- (this is were things pick up from the SRLV article)
[In my case, I never stop trying to push limits and help people get what they need; in Fred’s case it is that he can’t let something broken sit unattended to; in Melanie’s case she must find a way to express everything artistically.]
2. For you what are the 3 most important things in a job? (Now prioritize them 1,2,3).
Take s just a moment but there is real juice here. Answer this question before you read further (it is worth it, I promise). ……………….
Those 3 elements will always be present to let you know why you are satisfied or dissatisfied in your work at a moment in time. If you find yourself too frustrated or too unhappy with your work right now, if you check, you will probably find that you aren’t able to have access to 1 or more of the 3 most important things to you in a job.
This has HUGE career implications – I hope they are obvious to you.
3. For you, what is really essential to have in your Primary Relationship? This is a fun one, because it lets you design what you want in an ongoing way and leaves an opening for your Significant Other to do the same. It is the foundation for all things possible in love.
Sarah wants connection, love and fun while Tim wants affection and shared interests. Bob wants a Partner and a Lover, Nancy wants to Love be loved through supporting her man and being free to be the artist that she seeks to be. There are lots of nuance possible here and it is always uplifting to ask your interest in love – what matters to them.
4. Finally, for you, what’s important about your Family? This is the segment where you consider for a moment the experiences you “with” them and “for” them.
For example: Steve wants to experience closeness, love and trust while Michael wants a sense of safety and acceptance. Sarah wants harmony and support; Mary wants mutual support, mutual respect and shared love.
The actual words are points of focus for all that we Be, Do and have in our day-to-day life.
By answering these 4 questions (for now – fully reserving the right to change our minds later) – we set a focus that generally last’s 3-4 years.
The icing on the cake is that when we have frustration or get angry – it usually means that one of these criteria have been unmet or run over. It is our own built in feedback system to let us know when we need to do something different or check to see if what we are doing is really good for us and/or useful.
This has served me for years.
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